Research has shown that about half of all adults make New Year’s resolutions, yet less than 10 percent manage to keep them for more than a few months. One of the biggest reasons people have trouble keeping resolutions – whether it is losing weight, improving relationships, or managing finances – is our tendency to sabotage ourselves, says Dr. Bradley Nelson, veteran holistic physician, international lecturer and author of the best-selling book “The Emotion Code.”
“No matter our goals, sometimes we end up making choices or acting in a way that undermines what we really want, “ Dr. Brad says. “Even with the best of conscious intentions, we often allow this self-sabotage to creep in and prevent us from reaching our goals.”
Here are 5 ways people sabotage their goals and what to do about it:
1. Focusing on Failure
What to do: “The people who succeed may actually have more failures in their lives because it’s those failures that lead to the skill and wisdom to succeed the next time. Rather than feeling defeated when you fail, look for the lessons and the things you’ve done right that you can build upon.”
2. Not Celebrating Small Victories
What to do: “When you’re working on a goal, it usually helps to break it down into smaller milestones. The same concept can be applied to the celebration of those milestones. Don’t wait to pat yourself on the back until you’ve reached your goal. Celebrate the minor victories you achieve along the way.”
What to do: “Procrastination may result from feelings or Trapped Emotions of fear, dread, or insecurity. Resolving the emotions that may cause you to put things off can make a world of difference in your success.”
4. Faking It
What to do: “Ever found yourself putting on a fake smile when you really feel sad, angry, or resentful? Releasing these negative emotions may be as quick and easy as using The Emotion Code™ to rid yourself of that energy. It has helped thousands of people release negativity and experience the joy and motivation that keeps them moving toward the things they really want.”
5. Imposter Syndrome (feeling you are not worthy of success, happiness, love, etc.)
What to do: Take stock of your accomplishments – write them down. And don’t just focus on the big things. After all, the small stuff is what adds up to make you the person you are. Hold on to your list. Add to it at every opportunity. Use it to fuel positive affirmations about who you really are and what you’re capable of.”
- Learn from your failures.
- Celebrate small victories.
- Resolve feelings that cause procrastination.
- Rid yourself of negative energy.
- Note your accomplishments.
“If you can do these five things, chances are you’ll be better equipped to stop sabotaging yourself and start achieving your goals,” Dr. Brad says.
About Dr. Brad: Veteran holistic physician Dr. Bradley Nelson (D.C., ret) is one of the world’s foremost experts on natural methods of achieving wellness. He has trained thousands of certified practitioners worldwide to help people overcome physical and emotional discomfort by releasing their emotional baggage. His best-selling book “The Emotion Code” provides step-by-step instructions for working with the body’s energy healing power. A newly revised and expanded edition of “The Emotion Code” is now available (May 2019, St. Martin’s Press). For more information and a free Emotion Code Starter Kit, visit www.emotioncodegift.com.
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